Ben Affleck felt “trapped” in his marriage to Jennifer Garner and believes that if he had stayed, he would not have gotten sober.
“We probably would’ve ended up at each other’s throats. I probably still would’ve been drinking,” Ben, 49, recently said on SiriusXM’s “The Howard Stern Show,” added, “Part of why I started drinking was because I was trapped.”
“I was like, ‘I can’t leave because of my kids, but I’m not happy, what do I do?'” Affleck, who went to rehab for alcoholism in 2018, continued. And what I did was drink a bottle of scotch and fall asleep on the couch, which proved to be ineffective.”
The actor went on to say that he and Garner, who were married from 2005 to 2018, tried to work on their marriage for the sake of their three children, Violet, 16, Seraphina, 12, and Samuel, 9 years old.
“Ultimately, we tried, we tried, we tried because we had kids, but both of us felt like we didn’t want this to be the model that our kids see of marriage,” he said.
According to Ben, tabloids wrote everything wrong about their breakup, “Everything you read [in the news about the divorce] was bulls–t. The truth was we took our time, we made our decision … We grew apart.
“We had a marriage that didn’t work. This happens. She’s somebody I love and respect, but to whom I shouldn’t be married any longer,” he said.
The “Argo” actor said his marriage to Garner ended on good terms.
“We did it amicably. We did our best. Did we have moments of tension? Did we have disagreements over custody? Was stuff difficult for us? Did we get angry? Yes, but fundamentally it was always underpinned with a respect,” he said, adding, “I knew she was a good mom. I always hoped she knew I was a good dad. I knew I was.”
The actor also revealed that once he hit rock bottom, it took a year and a half to get sober.
“The cure for addiction is suffering, you suffer enough, that something inside you goes, ‘I’m done.’ I’m lucky because I hit that point before I lost the things that were most important. Not my career or money it was my relationship with my kids, and when I felt as if it impacted them, I recognized it,” he said of getting clean.
Affleck added, “It was the worst day of my life. I made amends … But since that day, I swear to Christ, I have not ever wanted to drink once.”
The “Gone Girl” star admitted the public dissolution of his marriage to Garner briefly gave him pause when it came to rekindling his aughts-era romance with Jennifer Lopez.
“It crossed my mind for sure … My responsibility to my children is the highest responsibility I have, so I’m not going to do anything that’s painful or destructive to them if I can help it,” he said. “That being said, I know that my life affects them.”
He added, “Me and their mom are celebrities and that’s hard. Let’s not bulls–t each other, right? That’s a f–king cross to bear, that’s an albatross already … and then during the divorce, you know they printed horrible lies.”
The “Argo” star and J.Lo were engaged in the early 2000s and got divorced. They started dating again in April 2021.
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